Sunday, August 22, 2010


What He's Thinking
Sex in the shower is overrated. I once tried this, but the entire time I was trying to contort my body so that I could get everything inserted correctly. That "up against the wall" variation is tougher than it sounds. The entire shower apparatus is so slippery, and then you have soap all over the place. It's a danger zone. Plus, I do my best to keep my bathroom clean, but I don't think I'd ever want to have sex anywhere near something called "mildew."
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5 Easy Ways to Feel Hot at Any Age


When I was 28 or so, I was out with a lady friend who was about 10 years older. A huge knockout with an adoring husband, she bears a striking resemblance to Mariel Hemingway. Nonetheless, that night, after she walked into the restaurant, she sighed and said: "You get past a certain age and men just stop looking up when you walk into a restaurant. And you miss it." I thought she was talking crazy — she was, is, and will always be gorgeous! Related: Start Early on Anti-Aging?

And then a couple of years passed. And I started to get what she meant. Youth can turn a man's head like nothing else can. And though I've never been a serious beauty like my friend, men did just sort of glance over whenever I came into view, once upon a time. In recent years? Not so much. And I notice it myself: Young women have a certain potent natural beauty, thanks to their lovely skin and shiny hair and all the rest. Related: Is Your Hair Aging You?

It can be hard to get older and to suddenly realize you may not be quite as naturally hot as you once were. Then again, there are benefits to getting older — and the main one is that you finally feel the (very sexy) confidence in yourself and your body that you never felt before.
That concept is at the heart of the blog called "Formerly Hot," written by a friend of mine, Stephanie Dolgoff. This month, Steph has a new book out, My Formerly Hot Life. I asked her if she could give us her thoughts on what we can do to feel hot at any age. Related: The 10-Step Anti-Aging Program

Here's what she had to say ...

1. Try not to care much about what other people think.
Steph says: "The hottest women are the ones who aren't too concerned about others' opinions of them. I cared way too much for too long. One of the greatest things about getting older is that you know yourself and what works for you — and that's hot no matter how old you are."
Maura adds: "Absolutely. The only thing you should care about is what you think. Dressing in a way that makes you feel good about yourself and helps you express who you are goes a long way — and it doesn't have to be expensive."

Related: What if Your Best Friends Are Your Worst Enemies?

2. Don't focus on what's not hot.
Steph says: "I used to stand in front of the mirror picking my body apart. Now, I look at what totally rocks and ignore the rest. Am I deluded? Yes. Am I happier? Yes. Do I feel hotter than I did when I looked objectively hotter? Yes."
Maura adds: "I try not to focus on my boobs. Of course, not being able to see them unless I use a magnifying glass makes that easier."

Related: How to Age Like a Celebrity


3. Find your great feature.
Steph says: "Everyone, no matter her age, has one great body part or facial feature. And that's all you need to feel hot about yourself. Just make the most of it. These days, I highlight my legs, and the rest gets strategically covered."
Maura adds: "I wear tight pants because I like to show off my gym-sculpted derriere."

Related: Bigger Boobs Without Surgery?

4. Smile a lot.
As Steph points out, we look best when we're cracking up or grinning about something. (Think about it: How many times have people told you that you have a great smile, or that you look prettier when you're happy?) And though we're not knocking people who've gotten Botox (but does it make you look older?)— particularly because I may have experimented with it — it does make your smile look less ebullient, and your laughter more subdued. Plus, anybody who's enjoying life isn't all hung up on those laugh lines in the first place.

Related: 5 Steps to Get a Brighter Smile Today

5. Laugh at yourself most of all.
Steph says: "Letting yourself crack up at the dumb-ass things you do — we all do — from time to time is incredibly freeing."
Maura adds: "Totes. I agree. And if you have trouble laughing at yourself, try to find some friends you trust, who also have good senses of humor. I've been laughing at myself for a long time, both because I can be an enormous maniac at times but also, perhaps even more importantly, because I've had some great friends who have showed me how to laugh at myself — by mocking my foibles and idiosyncrasies with fondness. Instead of coming off as criticism or an attempt to humiliate me, it has always come off as affection."
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Hilary Duff, Hairstyles
Less than a week after saying "I do" to pro hockey player Mike Comrie in an intimate California ceremony, Hilary Duff debuted a brand new darker hairdo as she exited the Byron & Tracey Salon in Beverly Hills Thursday. The couple enjoyed a brief honeymoon in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico

Watch Your Step

Clad in a $10,000 gown — with 1 billion people watching — Miss USA Crystle Stewart fell on stage during the evening wear portion of the Miss Universe 2008 pageant. Though she was visibly shaken when she stopped to pose for the judges seconds later, her immediate reaction was memorable: She stood up and clapped.




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Wednesday, October 14, 2009





Tyra Banks Flaunts Svelte Figure in New Photo Shoot


Tyra Banks before ...
... and after!















Two years after telling the world to "kiss her fat a--" when an unflattering bathing suit photo took the Internet by storm, Tyra Banks proudly showed off her new, more streamlined figure in a New York City photo shoot Monday. The supermodel turned actress turned TV host, famous for championing "real beauty," has reportedly gone from a size 14 or 16 to a size 8.

Two weeks ago, Banks talked about her weight loss with CNN's Larry King:

"When I told the world to kiss my fat a--, I remained that size for two years. I maintained it with my ice cream and my salad with ranch dressing and croutons and bacon bits."

Tyra also explained to Larry how she got the idea and motivation to lose the weight -- she started a weight-loss challenge with her "America's Next Top Model" staff members:

"We were sitting around a table and kind of trash talking," Banks said. "And decided to do this challenge because we all love food. I trash talked so much where I had to win -- and I did."

The talk show host has reportedly gone from a size 14 to a size 8!

Banks, who elevated her status as a cheerleader for natural womanhood by revealing her real hair (and saying goodbye to fake hair) on the season premiere of "The Tyra Banks Show" last month, is careful to connect her body makeover to the challenges presented by todays fashion:

"I may be doing a little bit of TMI, but I always feel great when I don't have clothes on, unless the lighting is bad in the dressing room. But sometimes certain clothes, when I put them on and they don't fit the way that I would like them to, that's when I tend to get self-conscious."

Tyra remains a champion of different types of beauty -- this season, "Top Model" features contestants under the traditional modeling height minimum of 5'7".


The supermodel kicks back on a pile of fall leaves.

Tyra ditched her extensions on the season premiere of "The Tyra Banks Show."
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Monday, October 12, 2009

THE 7 STYLE MISTAKES ALL GUYS MAKE

… AND HOW TO CORRECT THEM


REAL AND SIMPLE



Mistake 1: The Schlumpy Leather Jacket
Problem: There's nothing modern-or even retro-cool-about a leather jacket that fits like a rain poncho.
Solution: When trying on a new leather jacket, keep going down a size until you can't get it on, then buy the next size up. It should feel snug as a wetsuit but will take your body's shape over time. The coolest style right now? The bomber you see here.
Jacket, $1,695, by Dolce & Gabbana. Shirt, $375, by Balenciaga by Nicolas Ghesquiére. Khakis, $48, by Dockers. Shoes, $488, by Brooks Brothers Peal & Co.
Mistake 2: The Barack Obama Jeans
Problem: Whitewashed high-waisted jeans aren’t just dorky—they also emphasize all the wrong parts of your body.
Solution: Medium-rise raw denim jeans sit at the most flatter place (on your hips), follow your legs (instead of saddlebagging out from your waist), and form-fit to you as you break them in. Oh, and while you’re at it, replace the Seinfeld-esque running shoes with some lace-ups or classic sneaks.
Jeans, $90, by Martin + Osa. Sweater, $100, by Uniqlo. Shirt, $40, by H&M. Shoes, $560, by Alden. Watch by IWC.
Mistake 3: The Cheap Printed Tie
Problem: Let’s pretend this tie isn’t a little ugly. And tied too long. It still isn’t working. Why? A cheap thin silk tie gets you an unacceptably tiny knot.
Solution: Go for a sturdier silk tie, which’ll make for a solid knot. Plus, keep any patterns understated. Also, a quick note on length: The tip of your tie should not hang below the waistline of your pants.
Tie, $135, by Ralph Lauren Black Label. Shirt, $360, by Etro. Pants, $280, by Acne. Tie bar by Kenneth Cole.
Mistake 4: Sagging Suit Pants
Problem: Just bought a cool skinny suit? It ain’t cool if it stacks up at your ankles like baggy jeans.
Solution: Take your suit to a tailor and tell him you don’t want a break. Those are the words you should use: “I want this suit hemmed with little or no break.” Period. Remember: Tailors are used to working with guys who don’t know what they want. Be assertive so he understands that you’re after a specific look and don’t just want “the usual.”
Suit, $1,095, by D&G. Shoes, $395, by Calvin Klein Collection.
Mistake 5: The Pancake Collar
Problem: When you're not wearing a tie, the collar on your dress shirt flattens out and sinks beneath the lapels of your jacket. The look? Sloppy.
Solution: First, look for dress shirts with firm collars that stand up on their own., framing your face. Second, use collar stays. You know, those little plastic things. Every proper dress shirt has slots for them.
Shirt, $150, by Thomas Pink. Suit, $1,195, by Emporio Armani.
Mistake 6: Right Suit, Wrong Belt
Problem: You want Tiger Woods's swing, not his style, especially when wearing a suit. A silver-tipped faux cowboy belt is not a dress belt. If you've got one, retire it.
Solution: Invest in a high-qualityleather beltthat's an inch to an inch and a half wide. If it smells and feels buttery, that means it'll age beautifully. And the buckle should be subtle.
Belt, $69, by Club Monaco. Shirt, $370, by Marc Jacobs. Pants, $195, by Boss Black.
Mistake 7: The Oversize Suit
Problem: You invested in a dark handsome suit, but you look a little...eh in it. Know why? It's a size too big, and all that extra material is boxing (shoulders), sagging (waist), and flopping (ankles).
Solution: Repeat the leather-jacket method from the opening page. When trying on asuit, keep going down a size in the jacket until it gets uncomfortable. Then go one size up and buy that. And unless you’re over six feet two, buy a regular length, not a long.
Suit, $1,395, and shoes, $395, by Calvin Klein Collection. Shirt, $360, by Etro. Tie, $150, by Black Fleece by Brooks Brothers.

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HOW TO DRESS FOR THE BIG INTERVIEW


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It's tough out there these days. So if you're looking for work, you should be putting as much thought into your wardrobe as your CV. We helped seven on-the-hunt guys refine their looks so they can nail the interview and land the gig.

Jesse Gill, 23
Job he wants: Formula One engineer

Before

Jesse's got the right colors for Europe — navy suit, brown shoes-but his outfit needs to be streamlined, like the race cars he hopes to one day design.

After

1. Way too young to be sporting a yellow power tie. This blue silk knit brings out the blue in his shirt and goes with just about everything.

2. Unless you're a CEO, go with fine-line pinstripes — more urban gent, less robber baron.

3. As any Italian will tell you, there's nothing wrong with caramel brown shoes. But for an interview, go with a darker, more subdued shade.


Felix Lugo, 19
Job he wants: IT consultant

Before

In a brightly striped shirt, double-wide tie, and weekend khakis, Felix looks like what he is: a kid who just graduated from high school.

After

1. A fittedsweaterand slim graypantsmake Felix look years more polished. Plus, he's sure to stand apart in a sea of khaki-and-oxford-loving IT applicants.

2. Maintain clean lines — place your phone in your shoulder bag, not on your belt.


Michael Vickers, 22
Job he wants: Art-gallery curator

Before

A simple rule for all job interviews: Avoid black on black on black unless you're auditioning for Twilight.

After

1. The grayshirtand tiemaintain the monochromatic art-world vibe Michael's going for but aren't as severe as his original look.

2. Shaggy artist hair is appropriate for painting, not interviewing. He still looks creative, but now he's more on point. So on point, in fact, that during the photo shoot he scored the groomer's digits.

"In the art world, you're either an artist, so you dress poor-chic, or you work in a gallery, so you dress fancy even if you can't afford the clothes. It's all about faking it. But in this outfit, I'm not faking anything. I just feel more confident."


Akash Shah, 24
Job he wants: Accountant

Before

Not a bad suit, per se, but too boxy, too dark, too high-buttoned.

After

1. Even when applying for a job in which you won't see sunlight, you shouldn't dress like you're in mourning. A pale blue or pink shirt adds necessary color and makes you look more alive, less like the drone you will become. (Joke!)

2. A lower-set button stance on the suit jacket instantly makes Akash appear taller and trimmer.

3. No sneakers, driving shoes, or other misguided footwear. Lace-ups or wingtips, black or brown. End of story.

"I've always followed my dad. I shop where he shops, buy suits like his suits, and tie my ties like he does. The first suit he ever picked out for me was double-breasted-I was 12."


John Strang, 23
Job he wants: Sports management

Before

John is training for the Olympic trials in the decathlon. Yeah, we couldn't tell either. In pleated pants and a blousy shirt, he looks shapeless and nondescript — not really what you want to project for a sports job.

After

1. If you're going to skip the jacket, make sure your shirt and pants fit perfectly. Now you can actually tell that John's a fit, athletic guy.

2. He still achieves that all-American style, but with a toned-down color palette, he looks a bit more urbane and a little less Go, Gators!


Martin DuPain, 24
Job he wants: Art director

Before

The military boots and plaid are perfect for spray-painting a mural or seeing MGMT. Less so for showing off your portfolio.

After

1. Creative doesn't have to mean loud. Keep the accessories simple and understated and the entire outfit slim and modern.

2. Shirt? Tucked in. Jeans? Tucked out.

"This outfit is perfect, because I'm dressed well but not like I'm afraid to get dirty. I still look like I'm ready to roll up my sleeves."



Greg Scott, 30
Job he wants: Equity analyst

Before

It's hard to judge the suit when it's overshadowed by that tie. Forget for a moment that it's bright pink — the width alone makes Greg look much wider than he is.

After

1. No razor-line goatees, stubble, or soul patches, please. Unless you have a full beard, shave before your interview.

2. A slimmer tie with a sharp, clean pattern anchors Greg's look, so he appears younger and more professional.

3. Remember, you're not the boss — yet. So no cuff links, no contrast-collar shirts, no oversize rich-guy watches.


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